THE WISDOM OF LIFE CONSISTS IN THE ELIMINATION OF NON-ESSENTIALS. —LIN YUTANG
What’s the first thing that comes in our mind when we think about time management? Time tables, to-do-lists, multi-tasking, doing everything on time. Making a time table or to do list is not a rocket science yet why are we not able to finish everything on time or why do we fail to manage our time?
I think we should leave the old science related to time management behind and learn about what actually time management refers to in modern times where we have a lot of things to do and limited hours.
Let us go through this real life experience and find out what is the basis of time management-
I have two sisters, both were equally brilliant and talented. From school they had good academics, trophies, medals,scholarships. In college they were the most popular among everyone for their ideas and grit. After college they decided on different paths in life. One ought to become a doctor and focused on that one goal persistently. The other one wanted to run a successful business so she decided to take experience from wherever she could get it.
After 10 years, in a family gathering we met again the first one was a well accomplished doctor in New York State Hospital and other was still struggling to get her business on track. They asked me that we had similar upbringing, and both of us were equally talented then why is one more successful and the other is not?
I told them that she became a successful doctor because she solely focused on her dream career and prepared a base which was sustainable in long run whereas the other one scattered her energy into multiple directions and got stuck with short term goals which stopped her long term growth.
So moral of the story says, Time management is not about how to get more things done; it’s about how to get the right things done.
It is about making the wisest possible use of your time and energy in order to put effort in the direction where we yield highest result for our ultimate goal. Time management is not an art to do one more thing; it is a way of thinking.
Why Are We Not Able To Focus On Essentials?
There have been several reasons in combination that limits our ability to focus on things that are really important to us, some of the most impactful ones are as follows –
- TOO MANY CHOICES
Over the last decade there has been an increase in terms of choices we have like which clothes to wear, which mobile to buy, what should we eat today, which course should i select etc. because of this we have lost the sight of the most important ones. Too many choices overwhelm our ability to manage it. We have lost our ability to eliminate the non-essentials and focus on most important things.
It is not just the number of choices that has increased, it is also the number of outside influences and distraction on our decisions that has increased. Today, technology has lowered the barrier for others to share their opinion about what we should be focusing on. It is not just information overload; it is opinion overload.
- THE IDEA THAT “YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL”
“Hum sab karna chahte hai isliye hum kuch bhi nahi kar paate hain”
It has become more damaging because of the fact that choice and expectations have increased. It results in stressed people trying to fit more activities into their already over scheduled lives.
When we don’t purposefully and deliberately choose where to focus our energies and time, other people— our bosses, our colleagues, our clients, and even our families—will choose for us, and before long we’ll have lost sight of everything that is meaningful and important.
We can either make our choices deliberately or allow other people’s agendas to control our lives. This requires, not just saying no, but purposefully and deliberately eliminating the non-essentials, and not just getting rid of the obvious time wasters, but cutting out some really good opportunities as well.